
Me and Adam sat at one of the tables that surrounded the outside of the room. All the seats in the inner circle were filled and many of the tables were too. There were about 40 people there. The best way to describe them is as average. Everyone in the room was someone you could pass on the street and never know that they are an alcoholic. There were many more men than women, about 30 men and 10 women. The age of people in the room ranged from about 25 to 65. More members were older than younger. Most of the people were Caucasian. About half the people have been sober for over a year. The rest were in the process of getting there.
The meeting was ran by one women in the group. The members alternate the running of the meetings. The meeting opened with a reading of the preamble, which was followed by the reading of the 12 steps of the program. She asked if anyone wanted to introduce themselves to the group. Me and Adam introduced ourselves and let everyone know that we were there to observe. They were accepting of it and just told us to not take pictures because it is anonymous. Everyone laughed. After that, the women asked if anyone had a topic that they wanted to discuss at this meeting. A lady raised her hand and said that she wanted to talk about acceptance. The room was then open for discussion. Members were all told to avoid crosstalk and profanity. One at a time, people started discussion how acceptance has played a part in their daily lives and in their recovery. Each member began by stating their name and "I am an alcoholic." Everyone would say "Hello" followed by their name. At the end, they would say "thanks for letting me share" and the group would respond "thanks for sharing." After the discussion was over, pins were handed out to members celebrating anniversaries. No one was celebrating anything but one man said his son celebrated 25 years of sobriety at the 12 o'clock meeting earlier that day! The meeting concluded with everyone holding hands in a circle. The Lord’s Prayer was said and everyone ended by saying “Keep coming back; it works if you work.” After the meeting, many people stood around and talked. They all seem to have a close bond on one another. We did not participate in discussion during the meeting, but afterwards, many people came up to us with question about where we are from and what we thought of the meeting. They welcomed us back anytime.
I believe these meetings really help those who attend them. The members opened up and discussed parts of their life that are struggles for them and how much this process and sobriety has changed them. As a group they can get things off their chest and be honest. They encourage and accept each other. No one has to feel alone in the process. They are there to help others through the process. Each member is at a different step, and they can exchange advice. Through the discussions everyone bonds and it seemed like true friendships were formed. As someone who is not suffering from alcohol addiction, I could still relate to people's stories, and I felt like I took something away from this experience.
This meeting was quite the learning experience. In class, we discussed the 12 steps of the program and the addiction cycle. The people in the meeting were living examples of these. Each member was was at a different stage in the process but the main topic was step 1, acceptance. In part with the steps, some people discussed how hard the addiction cycle is to break. Overcoming their addictions to alcohol must start with them, but the group helps them to maintain it. One man asked another women, "How are you today?" She replied, "Well, I'm here."
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